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do not tell anyone about my problems. Not even my husband. I had a thyroid biopsy the other year and did not tell him because he gets all bent out of shape and thinks I have cancer all the time, so I had my DIL's sister take me for the biopsy and was home before he was,then never said a word until the DIL's sister blurted it out. Then he was furious because I didn't tell him. (Back in the 70s, I had fibroids and ovarian cysts and when I had told him I needed to have an operation, all he did was say "you have cancer, I know you do." So instead of being supportive, he made me feel worse.)
Of course, it was not cancer, but this is the reason I do not tell him when I have a problem. I wait until I know the results of any test before I tell him.
Sorry to go off on a different subject and don't mean to sound harsh, but maybe your mom doesn't want to( or can't) deal with it, and this is the way she can avoid the subject because she is too upset. Don't be hard on her, but just and rely on yourself. Some people handle crises [sic] altogether different. If you need support, do you have a best friend or someone else to count on? |
I feel your pain but honestly, I - Getting older
