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Do not have any contact with him, whatsoever. ANY time he gets to talk to you (even if you're yelling at him, for instance) or gets an e-mail from you or anything, it's like a "fix" for him and he'll continue trying to engage you.
At this point, it sounds like he's not dangerous, so I would go the ignoring route. Have no contact with him, and don't have anyone contact him on your behalf - not the police or even a friend sent to give him a "warning" - just... nothing. (If he's dangerous, that's a different story.)
You could change your phone number and get rid of the old one, or you could keep the same old # only for his messages (save the tapes, but have someone else listen to them and monitor them if they upset you too much, and contact the police if they become threatening) and give your new # to everyone else.
I've mentioned it before, but there's a book called "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DE Becker that really goes into detail about this kind of thing. I always recommend this book to women.
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*Absolutely* agree with this advice. sm - GLF
