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I find I am going into a depression each day as time goes on. The root cause is home sickness. I live far away from my family where the only way to see them is to fly. This happens maybe once every 3 or 4 years (which is how often I go back). My DH doesn't mind me going back at all and has been excited for me when I do go back because he knows how much I enjoy myself even just sitting around watching movies and visiting with family, and he's a loner kind of person, so am sure he enjoys the quiet time (we have no kids). However, with that said DH listens to a lot of talk shows, news stations, etc. Almost 2 or 3 times a week he'll tell me how bad the airports are getting, all these people are saying how unsafe it is to fly, this could go wrong or that could go wrong, then whenever you hear of an air disaster (i.e. the plane where those seats came unattached or they found screws missing in part of the planes, or maintenance checks not being completed properly) it intensifies his confirmation of why "anyone is nuts to want to get on a plane now adays". I haven't mentioned to him yet that I want to go back to see my family (dad is in his 70s now, sis is desparate to see me and I haven't seen my new niece yet), not to mention I'm homesick to see the area I grew up and love. He just came out again to tell me he's listening to someone talk about how there's no way in he!! they would ever fly, your just asking for it, etc, etc. (I'm sure those people are rich and can don't have a job and can drive from Canada to Mexico whenever they want to) My heart just sinks everytime he says that. Once I told him that they have to make flying safe because the whole country is filled with people who have to fly for business or personal reasons. I want to go back to see my family so badly my heart just aches, so was thinking maybe between Thanksgiving and Christmas time frame (we don't celebrate holidays here so no big deal) that way it would give things time to settle, but I just haven't said anything to him about wanting to go back. Also, with the crisis and election coming up there is a lot of uncertainty too, and I can't throw too much at him (he can't handle it). - Believe me in this household the impending gloom and doom are an every day part of our lives and our talks what we'd do if certain things were to happen.
What would you do? Do you think I should just hang in there and wait to see what happens over the next few weeks or so? P.S. - we do not have a marriage where I just demand or tell him the way its going to be. Of course I may just be thinking too much of this, but at this point not sure and I get more and more depressed the more I think about it. So looking for some opinions/suggestions on how you would handle this situation. |
