Posted By: Maybe you should tell him that. - sm on 2008-08-25
In Reply to: Drinking 9-12 beers a day means he is - an ALCOHOLIC. - nm

Depression is a life-threatening illness, both for him (AND you, in this case.) 'Self-medicating' with alcohol is the worst possible thing he could be doing, because alcohol is a depressant. Antidepressant medication (and psychotherapy) would probably do wonders, but he get into a program to kick the alcohol, because you're not supposed to take alcohol and anti-depressants together. So, maybe the first talk to have (if you haven't had it already) is that he has two medical illnesses - depression and alcoholism - that are both life-threatening illnesses in their own right, and which need serious and immediate medical treatment.

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