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she had a job. Another card to play, and its tough, but you can just throw it out there, is that if she does not straighten up, for lack of a better word, that you would speak to her employer. She's a minor, remember, 100% minor. So, you could throw out there that if she threatens to run away, you would have no choice but to mention this to her employer, as when she is at work, its their responsibility to be sure she doesn't leave, etc. Or that you would have to meet with her guidance counselor at school, etc. I'm sure she would rather do anything to avoid any sort of other authority interventions. Though that is what she needs as well. Sorry if they don't have guidance counselors - mine are homeschooled. But my guidance counselor in high school really tried to save me many times, while my parents never got involved. They just didn't want to know, though I was slick. I still got straight A's, graduated 2nd in my class, had a great job, etc. But I was running the streets nightly by the age of 14, and lived things I thought were great, but wished I never had a few years later. Its true that kids really want to be kids in the end. Also, I would not let her drive, as you had mentioned. So, dropping her off at work and picking her up - that will be a lesson in humility for her as well, but again, she needs not humility as much as being reminded that she is under YOUR authority and not the boss, and not an adult. As others have said, its tough love, and a hard balancing act. Know that you're not alone. Also know, though, that she is young and inexperienced, and you should be able to "bluff" your way a bit thru some of this hard stuff. I would bluff my way to hoarseness if I knew my kids were doing half the stuff that I did at 16. Please don't forget the big picture, though I know how its tearing your heart and soul to go thru this. Praying, praying, praying for you, too. |
I was also wondering how she had $$ or if - So Sad
