I was talking to my DH and told him (it is actually his half-brother going through this), and he agreed its hard to know what to say because his brother laughs about a lot of stuff (serious stuff and makes jokes out of it). So we have decided a sympathetic uh-huh is probably the most appropriate. I can't even remember how many stupid things I've said over the years. - Oh here's a winner for you....years ago everyone was down at our place for my grandmother-in-laws memorial service (didn't even have a funeral but that's another story). Anyway...we were in a restaurant and the seater was so slow...I'm talking about slow...looked like she was walking in slow motion and it reminded me of what my dad used to say when people moved so slow, which everyone always laughed and luckily for me this time they did too. Ready for what I said. It was "my dad always tells me that these people have died but they haven't realized it yet" Talk about an ee-gads!