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is the violence your hubby seems to display. I don't have stepchildren and so will not comment on that aspect. I have, however, been in a relationship with someone who sounds a lot like your hubby. Thankfully, no children were involved, but when he got mad, he broke stuff, expensive stuff. I didn't stay in that relationship but heard later on he was married several times and divorced each with charges of domestic violence against him. I would be most worried about his temper tantrums escalating into something more.
As for the child's behavior, this I will comment on as I have a very difficult 7-year-old. I took him for counseling and learned a lot of insight from the counselor. There were things I was unintentionally doing to incite him without even realizing it. The counselor also pointed out that I had 2 other children who did not act like this, so not to blame my parenting skills. He was just a child who needed to be handled differently. I felt a lot of guilt the last few years, thinking it was something I did to make him this way, but it turns out, that's just the way he was made. I'm thankful that I got up the courage to see a counselor, and while our problems weren't solved, they are better. It's an ongoing process, but he's worth it because I love him so!
I would suggest that you find a private counselor to help you sort this. I would not invite hubby along just yet. I also wouldn't tell him about the first appointment until you talk with the counselor on how to broach the subject with him. I would definitely let him know about the first appointment before the second appointment. It would probably be a good idea to discuss it when his son is not there.
Good luck with your situation. I feel for you. Children can be stressful to any relationship, but the joy they can bring is many times over. |
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