to believe something is going on, but like another poster said this really isn't any different than looking at their myspace page. We didn't even do that but other family members did it for us and we did it for them. Found out DS was possibly suicidal. We were dumbfounded. For the first time ever I snooped in his room and found a couple of other very eye-opening things. No drugs or alcohol but a possible eat-disorder. You just don't think about that when it comes to boys.
He lost a classmate earlier in the year to the "choking game". I wonder if his parents had snooped if they would have found something that might have prevented this. And BTW, couldn't stand my Dad as a teenager and now he is truely one of my best friends. Took until I was 20 for the relationship to really start but now at the age of 40 I am what he calls "his little girl".