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My parents argued about everything for as long as I can remember. I used to always side with my mom (just felt that obligation) as it seemed she was always the one being hurt. As an adult now in a good marriage, I feel some anger towards my mom for being the weaker one. She could have gotten out but chose to stay. To this day, my parents are still married and still fight constantly. My mom says my dad doesn't treat her well and when I look at it objectively, I can see her point. My response, however, is my mom doesn't treat herself well. She refuses to leave him, but she wants us to hate him, too, and I can't do that. The problems they have are theirs to fight out, not mine. I try to stay out of it as much as possible.
My point is your kids may be upset at first that you're splitting up, but in the longrun, they'll see you a strong woman and for that be grateful. Good luck and don't listen to the rude one below. She makes cracks all the time on these boards and I have to say she sounds like the selfish one to me. |
I am the child of such a marriage - see msg
