My husband does the whole has to leave thing too. I don't actually leave the house I just say I'm done talking about this right now. Try letting your fiance know that the reason you are leaving is so that you can calm down and not say something in anger that you will regret later, which is why my husband leaves during an argument. We have the same problem regarding my housecleaning abilities. He's ex-military and I never learned to clean! What seems small to us though is not small to them and we need to learn to respect that and make an effort. Ask him to show you how he thinks things should be cleaned (in a nonsarcastic manner of course!)
As far as the house building, check out ubuildit.com. We are considering building our own house in a few years when I finish grad school. For a small fee, they help you with permits, plans, finding good licensed contractors. Basically they help you be your own general contractor. My brother-in-law just build a house and did a lot himself like you guys are planning and I think the whole mortgage including land was 145K in Alabama? Land was 33K I think. That was 1350 sq. ft. so that should give you some idea of the total cost you guys are looking at in case you didn't know. Good luck! |
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