days, but we've learned to talk about them when we're not angry. It seems to be a cycle and I seriously believe men have PMS.
It may be that he's stressed from bearing the financial aspects of your relationship. I've always done the finances in our home, but a while back things were a little tight financially. I know I got really irritated when my husband would say - let's go somewhere this weekend or let's buy this . Instead of me explaining that we didn't have the money, I'd lash out at him because I was angry at myself for not having the money. We ended up arguing but not about the point. After a couple of months of this cycle, I sat him down 1 night and showed him "the books". I told him that we weren't in dire need but we did need to budget a little better and he understood a little better the stress involved with paying the bills, etc. I even let him take it over for a while (of course that didn't last long, b/c he's not great with remembering when things are due and balancing the checkbook). He seemed to understand and we worked out a better budget to allow us some fun together, which we desperately needed.
My point is, that it sounds like the problem may be that your fiance is stressed about making ends meet and may even be a little scared about providing for you once you're married. I would suggest that you sit down and talk it over with him when he's not upset. You might want to consider setting a budget you both agree on and sticking to it prior to getting married. Learning how to communicate now will be key in making your marriage work.
I've been married 13 years this summer and communication is probably the single most important factor in that. I can talk to my husband about anything - and I mean anything. We don't always agree on what we talk about, but we do talk about it. Congratulations on your wedding!!  |
My husband and I still have these - mtroadie
