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at 18. Their mother moved them 6 hours away when she wanted a divorce when they were in their early teens. She then let them each pick a friend to live with and she moved 4 hours away from her children. She of course still collected the child support every month and sent a meager $100 to each family to help with their support. Hmm, where did the other $800 a month go that could have gone in a colleg fund? The kids never called their father, sent him birthday cards, came to visit, etc. He was just a check to them each month. When each child turned 18 the child support went directly to them, not their mother. They too could have saved money, but didn't. When they turned 21 the support stopped. Funny how they only ever called when they needed a cosigner for a car (he didn't do that either, or lend money for a car). They didn't bother to get jobs during summer break or spring break, etc. That is not the fault of my husband; their mother should have prepared them for real life, not living off of someone else. I know of many kids who worked their way through college with no help from their parents; my husband's family was in no position financially to help him through school so he did it all himself, as did his three brothers. He has worked for the same company for 24 years and has a six figure income. Hard work never hurt anyone. If you want to help out that's fine, but not expecting kids to contribute to their education is doing them a disservice. And anyone who thinks an extra $1000 a month is not enough to raise a kid is obviously not in their right mind! |
Actually, the children were not dumped out... - phillychick
