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My DD has had an on and off again friendship with a guy she met almost four years ago when she was going into 9th grade. He was going into his senior year and after my husband and I flipped and forbade her to see him, I came to realize it was just a friendship. I met him and really like him. He's brilliant intellectually, is majoring in physics, a terrific conversationalist, and as squeaky clean as it gets - doesn't even swear. We relented and allowed them to see each other only at the mall, in public, no touching, no going anywhere together. He had a girlfriend. They've kept up an acquaintenceship for the 3-1/2 years. He graduated and went on to college in a nearby town, comes back for breaks, etc.
Fast forward - two months ago she hears he's broken up with his girlfriend. He came home on Easter break and my DD, now 16-1/2, wants to see him. She's been texting him, and talked for over two hours on the phone a couple of nights ago.
I want to let her. I trust her - she's extremely level-headed - both of them are goal- and future-oriented and want nothing to get in the way of their academic goals. I think, though they're too far apart in age to commit to anything right now, they actually may have a future together. Trouble is, my DH only sees the age gap - he's 20, and can't imagine anything but hormones taking over.
It's way, way too early yet, but I would love nothing more than to have him for a son-in-law eventually. Any suggestions? Is there a way I can help convince Dad that it would be okay? Should I just butt out? I don't want her to have to go sneaking around. That's what would cause the trouble, I think. |
