Trust me on this one. I just found out last spring (May 07) that my husband had been cheating on me. We were gone to our lake cabin and when we arrived home I checked the caller ID (as I always do). I seen a name on there and casually said, "who is this?" thinking it was one of the kid's friends. My husband proceeded to go out to his shop but I knew something was off. He called MD over to the shop to tell me that this was the same lady that had called his boss and tried to cause problems with them. "Anyway, when would I have time to have an affair. I am never late to come home and I never go to work early, etc." So, I believed him. Mind you, I had caught him talking to a lady on the cell phone a year prior and he told me they were just work-related "friends." He says he stopped that right after I found out.
Well, come to find out that evening (when we got home from our cabin) he did have an affair with this woman. He admitted it to me that night because he couldn't take the guilt any longer. He was screwing around with her over their noon hours and on the occasional nights he didn't come home right after work. He wasn't all the late though and he always fed me a line of something and I believed him so him coming home 15-20 minutes late once in a blue moon was no big deal to me.
Now, before you all jump down my throat on my stupidity for staying with him. I have invested 15 years of my life with this many and we are still together. Probably not such a great move but we are making it work. Our life is actually better than it has been in 15 years because we are way more open about things.
I have no advice for the sex line calls. I just wanted to expres the fact that accounting for their time doesn't mean jack!