Posted By: OP on 2007-12-31
In Reply to: you do the leaving - mimiskids

Was it an alcohol issue or was it his personality? Do you consider the incident I told about in my original post to be abuse? Did he always try to make you feel like it was your fault? How old were your children when you finally left? Sorry for all the questions...thanks again

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