Posted By: pc on 2007-12-30
In Reply to: I'm sick & husband is being mean...just so tired of it - sm - crying all morning, just venting

and getting by with it.  Call Al-Anon to help yourself.  Tell him to get help from a recovering alcoholic.

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            • This may sound crazy sm - Seasoned Survivor (Views: 62, 2007-12-31)
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                • Let us know sm - Seasoned Survivor (Views: 39, 2007-12-31)