Posted By: Worried mom on 2007-12-27

He loves to skateboard and rollerblade, but has never cared at all about team sports. Now he is in the fifth grade and finds himself the minority.  All his friends want to play soccer all the time or some other type of ball.  He feels very left out - now when he tries to play with them he gets insulted for not being good, yelled out, etc.  Today he is moping around because neither of his two good friends are available to play.  I want to find some way to help him.  Any ideas would be very appreciated.

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