Posted By: Mom on 2007-12-19
In Reply to: he is feeling out of control and he wants control - raising my granddaughter

I am trying to gain it back. I have always been so lenient, always allowing them to make decisions about what they want for breakfast, etc. So, the nicer I was, the ruder they became. Then when these temper tantrums started I started "taking away" control from him and not rewarding bad behavior, etc. So, now I believe I am just reaping what I am sowing. I appreciate your response. I don't think there is any easy answer at all. I know that. I think it is trial and error. I have 3 young boys. The other 2 never behaved like this. This is new to me. Husband and I have treated all 3 the same - this one is just very testing and trying. Thanks for the responses. No more from me. I don't have time for this right now. Thanks!

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