Posted By: marilyn on 2007-11-20
In Reply to: Should I make the kids sleep over at Grandma & Grandpa's? (sm) - Anon - definitely anon!! :-)

marilyn

No, I would not make them go - Not all people are meant to be the Norman Rockwell grandma.  Why should you subject your children to that?  Let her take them for an afternoon or even a whole day if she has something fun planned, then get them before bedtime.  I have two grown sons, 31 and 33 years.  My older son used to love to go to grandma's house.  My younger son hated it.  All kids are different.  Let them choose.  JMHO.

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