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My MIL hated the fact I was pregnant, made it known to me from Day 1 she wanted her son back, had a fit at both my pregnancies, responded with the - another mouth to feed, my poor son scenario. Just be glad you have someone who wants your children to be part of her life. As with another poster, two of mine are brainwashed by their mom, maternal grandmom and maternal aunts that their way is the only way to go. I cannot have a holiday without them asking to go to other grandma's before they've even finished their meals. I have done everything in my power, bought little interactive games for them to play while here, offer to play games with them, etc., etc., but they tell me their other grandma or their aunts told them not to be late. I am outnumbered and have decided that this is the last year I am going to cry over it. From now on, if they come, they come and if they leave early, let them go. No more crying. My other grandchildren love to come here, hate to leave, and can't get enough of me. Their mom does not coach them into the fact that they have two grammas and don't have time for me. I don't know what to do as a mom whose kids don't want to go, I would just have been thrilled had someone wanted to care enough about my children to spend time with them. I think the mom has a lot to do with it, so it's up to you to tell them they are very fortunate indeed to have a grandma who wants and needs them. So what if they show them off to their friends? It's called pride. Be thankful! They will follow your lead, so bring a Bingo game, wrap up some prizes from the dollar store and help your MIL out by making the visit a win-win for all. Wish I had that problem and did not have to deal with the hatred of a MIL who did not want grandchildren at all! Hope I didn't offend you but this really strikes a nerve with me from both ends, that of having been the DIL who had the unwanted grandchildren and as the MIL who absolutely loves to entertain her grandchildren and a sleep over is a wonderful thing in my book because I love having breakfast with them and I have pictures of them all over my home. Show them off? You bet I do, I love them! And she must care for you to want to give you a break once in awhile. She didn't tell you you made a mistake getting pregnant and must have tricked your husband into it. Now THAT's abuse! What you have is over-caring not over-bearing. |
Be glad she offers sm - anonalso
