Posted By: devil's advocate on 2007-09-26
In Reply to: Well, it does take TWO to compromise - can't do it by myself (sm) - OP

then I would go back to your original question and answer yes - that IS definitely grounds for divorce. It doesn't sound to me as though the moving/not moving is the bigger issue. If you have tried counseling and working on these issues then yes, move on to the next step. Is this controlling behavior just related to the house issues? Do not let yourself be mentally/emotionally abused by a controlling husband. It is so hard to get a complete picture from quick posts on a chat board, but I have watched someone I love spend 30 years of her life falling down that hole and wish someone would have told her to stand up to the controlling behavior before it grew into more. If that is your situation, I hope you are able to make a move for yourself and your kids and get out from under that pressure/strain before it gets worse.

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