Posted By: devil's advocate on 2007-09-26
In Reply to: But why can't he compromise so we can all be happy - not just him?? (sm) - Grounds for divorce??

Ask yourself 2 questions. One, have you honestly given this your best efforts or once you decided you didn't like it did you start your campaign to move? What can you do to improve the situation? Why are you so isolated - how close are your neighbors? Town? school? If it's the isolation and the clutter, what can you do to help improve your own situation? Two, have you complained about wanting to move or have you sat down and seriously, honestly, openly explained to this man you love how you feel about living here - without being accusatory? Have you asked him why he wants to live there and not "in town".

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