brooke borton
MI
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thank you all for your encouragement and advice.
we haven't been going to church regularly lately and i've realized maybe we need it, so i packed the kids up and we went to church (he came too, usually i get up and get the kids ready and tell him an hour before i leave that if he's not ready by then i'm leaving without him -- he sleeps in on weekends, as i said before).
so we go to church and guess what the sermon is about... marital disharmony. our pastor listed some things that cause disharmony and one of them was "unrealistic expectations". i listed mine as expecting him to be home more often to spend more time with us. he asked if i wanted us to spend more time together, and i said yes. so he convinced his mom to take the girls and then took me out to dinner, and told me he would try to do something with me once a week.
another thing the pastor said was not to criticize differences, to embrace them and celebrate them. he didn't make any comments about it but i'm hoping if he paid attention to the expectations part that maybe he paid attention to this too. i've told him before that i can't take constant criticism, it breaks me down and makes me feel worthless.
i do realize keeping my mouth shut for the sake of peace and quiet isn't going to get us anywhere. one day it's all going to add up and i'm not going to know what i'm doing here anymore.
if he can keep making little steps like he did yesterday, then i can keep setting an example and look forward to his slow maturity.
i do have some childhood banks my mom gave me recently, filled with coins -- i'm going to take them in to be counted asap. |
update - brookeb
